Friday, June 27, 2014

10 Myths Killing Success: Myth One - Effort

This is the first preview of my new eBook titled 
"The 10 Myths Killing Success.  (and how to defeat them)"

Feel free to share these excerpts with anyone you know who is trying to define success in their own life or business.  See if any of these myths have stopped you from finding clarity and moving forward:

Myth One - The Myth of Effort

Through my growing up years, I was taught the following:  "Work hard in school so you can get good grades so you can go to a good college so you can get a good job."  While there's certainly nothing boldly false about this series of notions, it has become clear that mere "hard work" does not naturally spawn success. 

Don't get me wrong, there is no success without effort; success is not an accident waiting to happen.  But for those of us who bought into the idea that "trying harder" would "produce more and better results", we learned more out of bruising and beating that more and better does not come so easily.

Hundreds of years ago, medical science believed that leeches had a positive effect on human health.  Leeches: You know, those slimy slug looking critters that attaches to warm blooded animals and sucks their blood out for food.  In fact, this belief was so prevalent that we had seminars on leeching.  We gave out degrees in leeching.  We had leeching experts, leeching best practices, leeching farms.  We spent an enormous amount of energy, and effort on perfecting the "science" of bleeding people so that we could "balance the humors of the body."  

We spent lots of energy.  But we spent all that time, money, research, and effort on something not even effective.  We were gaining tons of knowledge, experience, and expertise on developing a strategy that ultimately was a failure.

How many businesses, personal lives, endeavors, governments, programs, dollars, are expended in efforts going the opposite direction to actual success?  

Is your effort producing success?  Or could you be leeching instead of curing?  What if your effort, as noble as it may seem, what if your effort is focused in the wrong direction?

Friday, June 20, 2014

The Richest Man Is Wise

Bill Gates recently gave a speech at a High School about 11 things they did not and will not learn in school. He talks about how feel-good, politically correct teachings created a generation of kids with no concept of reality and how this concept set them up for failure in the real world.

Rule 1: Life is not fair - get used to it!

Rule 2: The world doesn't care about your
self-esteem. The world will expect you to accomplish something BEFORE you feel good about yourself.

Rule 3: You will NOT make $60,000 a year right out of high school. You won't be a vice-president with a car phone until you earn both.

Rule 4: If you think your teacher is tough, wait till you get a boss.

Rule 5: Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your Grandparents had a different word for burger flipping: they called it opportunity.

Rule 6: If you mess up, it’s not your parents' fault, so don't whine about your mistakes, learn from them.

Rule 7: Before you were born, your parents weren't as boring as they are now. They got that way from paying your bills, cleaning your clothes and listening to you talk about how cool you thought you were. So before you save the rain forest from the parasites of your parent's generation, try delousing the closet in your own room.

Rule 8: Your school may have done away with winners and losers, but life HAS NOT. In some schools, they have abolished failing grades and they'll give you as MANY TIMES as you want to get the right answer. This doesn't bear the slightest resemblance to ANYTHING in real life.

Rule 9: Life is not divided into semesters.. You don't get summers off and very few employers are interested in helping you FIND YOURSELF. Do that on your own time.

Rule 10: Television is NOT real life. In real life people actually have to leave the coffee shop and go to jobs.

Rule 11: Be nice to nerds. Chances are you'll end up working for one.

Friday, June 13, 2014

The One Thing You Can Not See

Look around you right now.  I guarantee there is one thing that you simply can not see.  No, This is not a metaphysical allusion to "look inward young grasshopper."  Really, there is one thing in front of you...It is there.. keep looking....  It matters not where you are - it is there...but you can not see it.

The one thing none of us can see, is our own eye.  We use our eyes to see everything, but we can not view our own eye. (OK, all you literalists, I know about the mirror trick...just chill out and bear with me, K?)

We look at people, see their flaws, and note them. 
We look at another business, see the errors, and gloat in them. 
We look at a competitor's failures, and float them.... in the public pool of gossip.

Your eye can see everything, but itself.  Which is, of course, is why we are so blind to our own flaws, errors and failures.  But, before you anticipate this to be a shout-out to self-pity or self-abasement, hold the critique for a moment.

Being able to See, probably the greatest attribute of the physical body, means one can negotiate spatial relationships and not harm them self or others by simply moving about.  The ability to see means we can discern distance, appreciate colors, apprehend beauty, drive a car, run down a hill, give high fives, and hit a tennis ball.  When people are asked which of the five senses would be the worst to lose, the universal answer is sight.

What if God was giving us a message in this one single limitation of the incredible gift of sight?  Is it possible the reason we can't see our own eye is because the important stuff to see is out there?  My mentor, John Maxwell once said:
"With one trifling exception, the world is made up of others." 

Wish I had said that....wish I lived it better too!

   ----Rix Done

Friday, June 6, 2014

I Want To Leave Peanuts

Imagine impacting your world so deeply, that every single weekend people all over America think about you…even 12 years after you die.

His name was Charles M. Schultz, and  he was the creator of “Peanuts” and characters such as Charlie Brown, Lucy, and Snoopy. 

Pick up any weekend cartoon page of your local newspaper, and there, in the top billed spot is “Peanuts” – week after week.  Last Sunday’s Peanuts cartoon was first published in 1965!  Talk about remaining relevant!

I’ll bet you can’t even name the Best Picture in 1965?  (Sound of Music) and there is no way, you remember who won Best Actor in 1965…you’ll have to look that one up.  I had to.

Is your message, life, actions, intentions, family, marriage, and legacy  going to last?  Even a year after you leave the world?  No, I am not saying everyone should feel they must impact the whole world.  But someone is watching you right now…seeking your advice, learning from your words, listening to your heart.  In fact, you are impacting people…like it or not. 
This is not a “feel good and smile” idea – this is real life.  We all impact others…

I want to leave the world with more Peanuts, and less shells.